Why do people go for counselling and/or therapy?

Because it works! As simple as that.

Going to a counsellor or therapist should be no different than going to the gym. People go to gym for better health and healthy life. It’s not that everyone who goes to gym is sick. Same way, people who see counsellor/therapist are not always sick. Most of the time people see counsellor/therapist to gain balance and harmony in life and to live life to it’s full. Of course, counselling/therapy can help treat serious problems of your life but it can also offer beyond just the treatment aspect. A session with your counsellor/therapist is your time to focus on yourself – identify roadblocks in your life, gain tools to overcome them, improve your self confidence, self esteem, work towards your career goals, overcome negativity holding you back, improve parenting skills, gain insight into your thoughts and feelings and offer you much more.

People mistakenly think that discussing or seeking help from friends or family is enough and that they don’t want to discuss their issues with outsiders (meaning counsellor/therapist). This is not the best approach to take when dealing with challenges for a few reasons. There is a risk of being judged, confidentiality may be compromised, competence of your friend or family member could be questionable. Further, friend or family members have emotional involvement and their opinions and biases may do more harm than good.

Your relationship with you counsellor/therapist can be very different. The counsellor/therapists usually have advanced degrees, they are trained and experienced to help you and they offer you a space to express yourself without being judged. Your information is confidential (subject to certain limitation). Most important – unlike friends and family, your counsellor/therapist does not offer you solution or impose their values on you. They offer you insight so that you can steer your life in the direction that you choose.

People often describe their sessions with counsellor/therapist as rewarding.  Bottom line – counselling/therapy can (and should) not be viewed myopically as a treatment but also as a wellness tool to get the best out of life.